Up until a few years ago, a woman had to get her husband’s consent to buy contraceptives over the counter.
Today, one can languidly stroll into a chemist after a hot and heavy night, simply pay Sh150 and get the morning-after pill.
Despite the campaign against using these pills as contraceptives (because of dire effects such as acquired immunity and eventual resistance), ladies still pop them like candy.
But in all fairness, it is commendable that society no longer views buying a condom or a pill in public as embarrassing (even though, apparently, condom advertisements are still a No-No).
The fact that we have evolved this far is a good and a bad thing. It is a good thing because we can take control of our reproductive organs (and who, really, does not want that?)
It is a bad thing because people then proceed to abuse that power, because they know the consequences can be stymied with a quick downtown abortion.
By avoiding the debate on pertinent issues (yes, I am still talking about sex), we risk taking our country to extremes.
Not talking about Female Genital Mutilation does not make it right - even if it 'apparently' reduces a woman's libido. (READ: Agony for girls as culture of silence fuels outdated ‘cut’)
A great hue and cry over the Weka Condom Mpangoni commercial claiming that it promotes immorality also won't stop men and women from having sex.
On the other hand, a completely ‘permissive’ society - where abortions are legal and women who have many sexual partners are not considered sluts - is something every outwardly conservative Kenyan is against. Heaven forbid, right?
But we must talk about sex. The mystery that surrounds it needs to be unravelled because our current attitude promotes a culture of ignorance and deplorable actions.
People are doing it and they are doing it without protection, passing on all kinds of things. People are thinking about it. They have questions about it especially those that are clueless about it.
Our children are going into a hyper-sexed world with absolutely no information except for rumours from friends and the internet.
What kind of foundation and conscious thought are we giving them?
Sex is not a taboo. It is a fact of life, and the more we shroud it in mystery, the more accidents are likely to happen.
People need to talk about it so that when do it, they do it right.